Dear Parent,
Greetings and welcome to this blog..
Any parent undergoing the pain and suffering you are going through now, would understand your predicament very well.
Being ALIENATED from your own children can be very painful especially when you love them. Sadly, many people do not understand it becos they have not gone thru it.. This usually stems from the action of a selfish and or vindictive spouse.
By the way the truth will always be that your children are actually missing you and are unable to express it across to you.
It’s your family after all.. You have every right to be close to them… (unless of a convicted offence, even then we feel you should not be deprived of them).. Don’t be a victim of a bullying type of spouse anymore, it’s time you stood-up and voiced your emotions..
This blog was specially created for you to communicate with your children. Do express your true feelings of parental love… sadly many do not know it, appreciate or understand it..
August 22, 2008 at 11:29 am |
22ndAug’08
Hello Adriel,
This is Dad Dad here, how have you been son?
Dad Dad really misses going out with you and I misses all the happy times we spent together.
Dad Dad knows you are going through a difficult time now but rest assured that you will always be loved and missed just the same, and nothing will ever change that.
Dad Dad never stop praying to God that we can soon go out together once again.
God will make everything right for us, lets just keep praying son : )
With lots of love
Dad Dad
(Arthur Cheng)
Here’s my dedication of love to you:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-JiQR5rVboQ
January 10, 2009 at 11:59 am |
1. Never explain yourself to anyone. Because the person who likes you doesn’t need it, And the person who dislikes you won’t believe it.
2. When you keep saying you are busy, then you are never free. When you keep saying you have no time, then you will never have time. When you keep saying that you will do it tomorrow, Then your tomorrow will never come.
3. Time is like a river. You cannot touch the same water twice, because the flow that has passed will never pass again.
4. Don’t make promises when you are in joy. Don’t reply when you are sad. Don’t take decision when you are angry.
5. We cry for those who never care for us. And we care for those who will never cry for us. This is the truth of life, it’s strange but true. Once you realise this, its never too late to change.
6. When we wake up in the morning, we have two choices. Go back to sleep and dream, or wake up and chase those dreams.
7. Don’t let someone become a priority in your life, when you are just an option in their life.. Relationships work best when they are balanced..
January 14, 2009 at 11:45 am |
Forget about the days
when its been cloudy, but
don’t forget your hours in the sun
Forget about mistakes
that you can’t change now, but
don’t forget the lessons
that you’ve learned
Forget about the times
you’ve been defeated, but
don’t forget the victories you’ve won
Forget about misfortunes
you encounter, but
don’t forget the times
your luck has turned
Forget about the days
when you’ve been lonely, but
don’t forget the friendly smiles you’ve seen
Forget about the plans
that didn’t seem
to work out right, but…
Don’t forget to Always Have A Dream
Keep Smiling and have a Wonderful day!
January 15, 2009 at 11:53 am |
Because of recent abductions in daylight hours, refresh yourself
of these things to do in an emergency situation… This is for you,
and for you to share with your wife, your children, everyone you know.
It never hurts to be careful in this crazy world we live in.
1 . Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do!
2. If a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM . Toss it away from you…chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you, and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!
3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car, kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won’t see you, but everybody else will. This has saved lives.
4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc.) DON’T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side, put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU GET INTO YOUR CAR, LOCK THE DOORS AND LEAVE. If someone is in the car with a gun to your head
DO NOT DRIVE OFF, repeat: DO NOT DRIVE OFF! Instead start the engine
and speed into anything, wrecking the car.Your Air Bag will save you. If the person is in the back seat they will get the worst of it. As soon as the car crashes get out and run. It is better than having them find your body
in a remote location.
5 . A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:
A.) Be aware: look around you, look into your car, at the passenger side floor,
and in the back seat
B.) If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Some serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.
C.) Look at the car parked on the driver’s side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back and get someone – guard/policeman to walk you back out.
IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)
6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot. This is especially true at NIGHT!)
7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN!
The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN, Preferably in a zig-zag pattern!
8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathy of unsuspecting women.
He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked ‘for help’ into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.
9. Another Safety Point: Someone just told me that her friend heard a crying baby on her porch the night before last, and she called the police because it was late and she thought it was weird. The police told her ‘Whatever you do, DO NOT open the door.’ The lady then said that it sounded like the baby had crawled near a window, and she was worried that it would crawl to the street and get run over. The policeman said, ‘We already have a unit on the way, whatever you do, DO NOT open the door.’ He told her that they think a serial killer has a baby’s cry recorded and uses it to coax women out of their homes thinking that someone dropped off a baby He said they have not verified it, but have had several calls by women saying that they hear baby’s cries outside their doors when they’re home alone at night. Please pass this on and DO NOT open the door for a crying baby–
The Crying Baby Theory was mentioned on America’s Most Wanted this past Saturday when they profiled the serial killer in Louisiana. I’d like you to forward this to all the women you know. It may save a life. A candle is not dimmed by lighting another candle. I was going to send this to the ladies only, but guys, if you love your mothers, wives, sisters, daughters, etc,
you may want to pass it onto them, as well.
Send this to any woman you know that may need to be reminded that the world we live in has a lot of crazies in it and it’s better to be safe than sorry.
January 22, 2009 at 5:27 pm |
When Children Seem to Prefer One Parent Over the Other
At times a child may seem to prefer spending time with one parent more than the other. The neglected parent may end up feeling hurt. If you are experiencing this type of situation with your child, don’t take it personally. Young children go through phases and this is just a phase.
Children may sometimes react this way due to the roles the parents play in the household. One parent may be considered the fun parent if he or she always initiates play and games. The other parent may be the primary disciplinarian – the one who sets and enforces rules and guidelines. An example of this type of situation may be seen when Mom says it’s time for bed but Dad says playtime can be extended just a bit longer. At that moment, Dad appears to be more fun than Mom, from a child’s point of view.
Any sudden change in appearance may quickly direct the child’s attention and preference to the other more familiar parent. This is true of very young children. When my youngest son was a toddler we were practically inseparable. He went everywhere with me and hardly paid any attention to his father at all. Then one day I decided to cut and color my hair. The moment my son saw me, he started to cry and clung tenaciously to his father. He wouldn’t come near me and every time I approached him, he ran the other way. It wasn’t until after I restored my hair to its natural color that he slowly began to accept me again.
Even if Dad has always had a beard and then decides to go clean-shaven, a very young child may react adversely to the change. When something about one parent becomes familiar to a young child, he or she will turn to the other more familiar parent. Children identify with familiarity, which is why they sometimes prefer an old toy to a new one.
If your child prefers your partner to you, don’t make a big deal of it. Ask yourself why. Is your partner the one who is home most often with the child? Are you more of a disciplinarian than a playtime partner? Have you changed your appearance recently? If you have changed your appearance, give your child time to adjust to the new you. If you’re the one setting all the rules, get your partner in on the ground rules too. Both parents should share in all aspects of parenting; that includes discipline and fun. Try to arrange play dates and activities for your child that both you and your partner can participate in.
Remember that your child loves both of you even if he or she does play favorites every now and then. There are times when a child may seem closer to Mom and other times when he or she may seem closer to Dad. Children bond with both their parents and they do go through phases and natural cycles. Written by Darlene Zagata